Don’t be afraid to ask for help
Being vulnerable is not easy. This is particularly true when you have to take on the responsibility of executor, think of planning a funeral, taking care of the estate, and comforting other family members who are struggling. However, if you don’t stop and ask for help when you feel like you’re sinking or can’t keep up, then all of that emotional pain and stress that you’re bottling up will just burst out in the worst possible way.
Instead, lean on the people in your life who love you. Reach out when you’re feeling like you’re at the end of your rope. Whether it’s having someone help you with housework or babysitting or just lending you an ear and a shoulder to cry on when you need it, asking for help and being vulnerable allows others in your life to show up for you.
It’s also a smart idea to seek out professional help if you’re able to. It doesn’t matter if you never had any mental health issues before: The loss of a loved one is a big, traumatic life event, and turning to a professional who’s trained in exactly these matters can really help you grieve in a healthy and empowering way. Find what works for you and what you’re comfortable with, whether that’s a therapist, a psychiatrist, or a grief counselor.