May 18, 2022
Holographic Wills in Ontario
Holographic wills are handwritten wills that don’t require witnesses. Here’s what you need to know about holographic wills in Ontario.
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How do you find the right words to express your sympathy for someone’s loss? When someone you care about is grieving, you might feel helpless.
Nothing you can do will take their pain away. What you can do is help them manage it by offering your condolences and support during what may be the most difficult time of their lives.
In times like these, actions can be more powerful than words. We’ve put together a few ways that you can support a loved one while they grieve:
Sometimes, the hardest part of losing someone is feeling alone. If your loved one lost a partner, a parent, or a child, they might have spent a considerable amount of time with that person. Being alone is a painful reminder of their loss.
The company of another person is so valuable during the grieving process. Offer to visit your loved one whenever possible. Make it clear that they aren’t “hosting” your visit in any way. You can simply bring a book and read together, watch TV, or listen to music.
If your loved one has been named the executor of someone’s will, they’ve got a lot of paperwork to do. Try to see if there’s any way you can ease their burden. For example, you might help them compare the costs of cremation services and burials.
Oftentimes, cleaning and cooking are the first things that fall to the wayside when we’re grieving. You can offer your help by taking care of their housework. Ease your loved one’s burden by:
Check in on how they’re doing. After a loss, your loved one might get plenty of phone calls. But in the weeks that follow, people may forget that the person is still grieving. 10-20% of grievers experience complicated grief, which persists for months after a loss.
These phone calls don’t need to be long. You can simply check in on how your friend or family member is doing, talk about your day, and end it there. They might not feel up for talking, but they will appreciate that you checked in on them.
If they prefer to text, you can send them regular messages. Texting gives them the freedom to respond when they’re ready. Even if they don’t reply, they will be grateful for your concern.
Our words can’t heal the pain of losing someone dear to us, whether that’s a sibling, a partner, or a parent. Instead of trying to make things better by finding the right words, consider letting your loved one talk instead.
When they feel ready, you can ask them questions about the person they lost. What was their life like growing up? If they lost a friend or partner, how did they first meet? What are some of their favorite memories together? It may bring them some peace to reminisce about happier times. Let them do the talking and listen attentively and with respect.
If the topic becomes too upsetting to speak of, you can try to change the subject. Otherwise, let the conversation go on as long as they need it to. Talking about fond memories might help them heal.
There’s something so sincere about a handwritten letter; it’s more personal than a store-bought card or a Facebook message. In a letter, you can express your deepest condolences to your grieving friend or family member.
Once you start writing, you might realize that you’re not sure what to say. It can be hard to find the right words. To help get you started, consider writing the following phrases:
In your letter, there are a few phrases you should try to refrain from using. To help you navigate the writing process, we’ve compiled these phrases that you might want to avoid:
Losing someone is always painful, whether it’s at the end of a long illness or an unexpected loss. For each person, grief is a unique experience; we all process it in our own ways. We hope the above suggestions help you when supporting someone you love.